Loving Your Body at Every Size - Embracing Your Sexuality

With the overwhelming external influences around us, we’ve come to think that only certain ‘types’ of people deserve certain experiences. We might be telling ourselves lies like: I cannot be loved or love myself with my current body type. It’s these cognitive distortions and faulty logic that is preventing us from feeling aligned with our bodies and treating ourselves like magic. 

We sometimes find ourselves in damaging cycles because of these sets of ‘beliefs’ about ourselves or our bodies. For instance, you believe that you cannot form relationships because you are overweight, and thus you don’t immerse yourself in social situations, but instead isolate yourself and maybe binge-eat because you feel alone. 

We all deserved to be loved. You are loved and you are enough. 

If we can find a way to love and embrace ourselves regardless of our external shape, we might just end up making more positive choices in celebrating our bodies. Let’s take a look at some steps we can take in learning to love our bodies, obese or otherwise… 

Make a List

This might be tough at first, but try and list features of your body that you do like, and embrace them. If you love your eyes, see if you can do make-up that will accentuate them, or take artistic photos of your eyes. Start with just one thing you like about your body and spend some time embracing that feeling of love. The next day, choose another part of your body to focus on and love. This is a great way to start enjoying your body bit by bit, especially if the idea felt very foreign, 

Music and Movement

Have you ever realized that certain songs make you feel powerful, energetic, and emotional? The same goes for sexuality. Certain songs really trigger our innate feelings of being sensual and feeling sexy. Try to create a playlist of ‘sexy’ songs and see what movement the music inspires. This is a moment between you and yourself, so don’t be afraid of looking or feeling silly. 

Invest in Quality 

Sometimes, when we aren’t happy with the way we look, we tend to devalue ourselves and neglect our self-care. It’s an easy trap to fall in, because if we don’t look after our bodies or buy proper fitting, quality clothes - it could reinforce the idea that you aren’t worthy of more. Find undergarments that make you feel sexy - and if you don’t feel sexy in them yet - start learning to feel sensual in them. Practice looking at yourself in the mirror and using positive body mantras, while you wear them.

Find the Connection

Do you feel disconnected from your body? Maybe you’ve been breaking it down so much that you can’t even communicate with it anymore. Try to listen to what your body is trying to tell you. We want our minds and bodies to become aligned so that it’s the optimal setting for pleasure, purpose, and passion. Meditation is a great tool for reconnecting the mind and body, as well as breath work. A therapist could also help you create a new narrative within yourself through cognitive behavior therapy or psychotherapy. 

Feeling overwhelmed? Luckily, you don’t need to go through this alone. Book an online therapy session with us and we can explore all the new and wonderful ways you can learn to love and embrace every part of yourself.